Not sure why I cheated



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Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
I am in a great relationship but we have had to go long distance for a while. He has tried hard to stay in touch with me during this period.

But the experience I am having during this period is really difficult and he canīt relate to it. I try to explain things that are happening in my life now and he tries to listen. But it is obvious he canīt relate. I am all alone here and lonely.

I cheated with somebody ... everything except intercourse ... I resisted many times, and made efforts to avoid him, because I actually really liked him, but he managed to find me when I wasnīt expecting to ever see him again and then I gave in.

I think I really needed the affection. Okay, wanted the affection.

I will not see this guy again and feel it wouldnīt help to tell my boyfriend. I love him and want to stay together and I think it would just hurt him.

I donīt think he would understand. But maybe because I donīt really understand either.

I am scared that I will feel distant from him after this if I donīt tell.




User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Talk it over


You need to tell your boyfriend, I just told mine, and it was hard....very hard. But, he has to know, and if he doesn't it will break you. Just sit down and tell him, ask for a second chance, but if you lacked affection then that needs to be discussed so you both can have a great relationship and move on from there. If you both really love one another, you can move past this.

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