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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over two years. He was 16 at the time and i was turning 14. I met him through his ex, which makes a huge problem right there because she hated me at the time for "taking him". The day we started dating he was flirting with girls. TONS of girls. at school mostly. then during the winter he works at a snowboarding place where he cheated/flirted with people there too. He never told me about the cheating until months aftr. He said it was only once when in reality it happened atleast 6 times(which came out a few months ago). The flirting he did went on for atleast a year. He also lied about people dying in his family and other stupid things for attention(pathological liar?) He got naked pictures as well months after we started dating. There have been little problems since the time he stopped flirting like him talking to girls because we were fighting. This summer he met a girl and i just found out two days ago he got her number which didnt make me happy at all. I dont know how to feel and if I should believe him. He always says he will stop hurting me and lying but he needs a therapist which i cant make him go to. This im sure sounds like everyone elses problem but we had a baby together and put her up for adoption which put a lot more stress on us. I feel like our child is one reason I want to try and make things work because no one understands. What should I/we do?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
You are still young
You are still a very young woman. Focus on yourself and just enjoy life. Don't start worrying about relationships, instead enjoy friendships. :-)
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