... the bottom line is still that you pledge your love to another and trust that person to love you.
I happen to think it is much easier when there is romantic love and sexual attraction. And if you are very fortunate, you either share a lot of interests and likes and dislikes, or you can complement one another well.
develop your interests and your life. When you meet someone who stirs your very soul, speak your heart. And if you both speak your heart honestly and transparently and decide to pledge your troth (with or without a marriage), then you can decide if marriage is for you.
Don't be hopeless, Joe. Be hopeful. There's plenty of good people. I talk to them all the time.
I agree Carl.
Good luck, Joe!