Hello Maggie
Whatever the reason, it sounds as if this isn't working out for you.
Perhaps it began too soon after your divorce and you needed more time to sort yourself out.
Perhaps he simply has issues.
Ask yourself:
~ do you love him?
~ is the atmosphere at home good for your little girl?
Having said that, I can understand him feeling uncomfortable at your Mum's house.
I know that daughters turn to their Mums in times of trouble. Indeed, I'd probably recommend it, because, for most people, one's mother is the best friend they will ever have.
However, I do agree that what goes on between couples, unless it is dangerous behaviour and the relationship is over or about to be over, should be private. I know that if & when we have disputes, etc, with out partners, that we will feel the need to talk to someone ~ and who better than Mum ~ but for 'him' this is not good. It is embarrassing and humiliating. And then, when everything has died down and the argument has been sorted, he has to face her. That must be very hard. Mums can bear a grudge, on behalf of their daughters, long after daughter and partner have kissed and made up.
So, I am not condoning his behaviour, but I can understand some of his feelings.
Is it time to return to the warmth of your family, with your daughter, and heal your wounds?
Or is this man someone you want to spend your life with?
His behaviour seems potentially destructive ~ or am I wrong?
Maybe he just wanted you to spend your first Thanksgiving together. Maybe he got angry because you turned to your mother rather than to him.
I'm not trying to make excuses for bad behaviour, but there are always two sides to every story, and I'm just wondering about the other angle. What do you think?
Only you know what is right for you, but you may be in too much turmoil to be able to see things clearly right now.
Is he a good decent person, who you want in your life, but who felt sad, ignored and upset, so became angry?
Or is he a destructive and disruptive force, who is going to cause you problems and make you ~ and your daughter ~ unhappy?
You could try relationship counselling, if you want to work at this.
Whatever you decide to do, I wish you lots of luck
