Do you eat your meals as a family? The reason I ask - you might try feeding your daughter earilier - get her occupied with something and then have dinner with your hubby. You could try setting the table like it was a date - fix his favorite dinner - have a bottle of wine - dress like it is a date, then spend the meal visiting with hubby. I am aware that puts all the work of "creating" the date on you. But if the two of you enjoy each other, mabe this will encourage him to want to go out together.
It is so easy to slip into a rut that is comfortable for one but not comfortable for the other. It sounds like that is part of what has happened. He is fine with the way things are and sees no reason to change.
Men are pretty easy creatures to coax into something if you provide the right bait.
Instead of just saying you want change - create the change.
I really do understand your frustration - and I know this is not your fault - but change has to start somewhere - and it sounds like he sees no reason for change.
