Sorry if I seemed to be ganging up on her.
I hurt myself for years - and those around me, because of things that happened to me as a kid. My hurting was through drinking and in other ways. Slow ways, but still destructive.
And in self-help programs I've been in, one can only be helped if one admits one has a problem. For that matter, even counseling is only as good as the desire for help.
I care enough to speak straight. She may not agree, and you may not agree. But I won't lie so that what is heard is what she wants to hear.
Too many times I think we enable people to continue to hurt.
But I'll bow out of the advice department. Again, sorry.
