DO NOT THINK YOU ARE A HORRIBLE PERSON!!!!!!!!

I spent the first 18 year of my life trying to please my parents. I spent the second 18 year of my life trying to please my first husband. Neither one worked. It was for different reasons than your marriage, but just the same it didn't work because I was not being myself.

Thru marriage counseling (which obviously didn't save the marriage) I learned a lot about myself. I continued with the counseling after the divorce.

I am now living my life being myself. You are not being selfish.

My second marriage is now it its 25th year. I am very happy with my marriage, my husband and with myself. I am still working on the parent thing.

Consider this - if you stay with David because you are not wanting to hurt him is that fair to either of you.

My ex begged, pleaded etc. not to get a divorce. He is also now in a happy marriage that is in its 26th year.

Last edited by BLR; 03/10/10 04:17 PM.