I do think that I've made a decision on what I would like to do - despite this making my husband unhappy. I don't see myself being happy until I can actually get out of the house into an apartment by myself to think about things and assess the situation I'm currently going through. We have our first marriage counseling appointment next Tuesday - I feel like I have to wait a week to tell him these things because of the pain and the anger it will cause him. Do I tell him now?

I plan to get a separate place but to continue the marriage counseling - at least weekly if at all possible. I think living alone and doing the counseling will help me to figure out some things in my head - sort through things.

I really want to do this.