In Africa now - having a wonderful time (both work wise and just discovering wise) - definitely an eye opener. This is the first time I've had TRUE and lasting internet access since I've left last Friday. I've called my mother via the international phone when I can. I'm also using my trip to Africa as a chance to see what a "true separation" will feel like - no talking to the husband, no seeing him - and so far I'm fine. I still have trouble keeping in mind to think about myself as that seems to be the hardest part of this whole thing - thinkng about upsetting and hurting others and tryingg to make them happy.